My Policy on LRs
January 6, 2009
Was just alerted by a friendly reader that my old post on My Policy on LRs had disappeared. It must have happened when we transitioned to the new site.
So I’m writing a new one.
Because my real name and photo are now linked to my online handle, I will do my best to protect the identities of my lovers, friends, and family members. This includes past relationships, as well.
However, one of my original goals in starting a blog was to educate people in how to attract women, and one of my main tools for doing so was the LR, for which my blog gained a considerable following.
You can find my old LRs under the “Adventures” category. I’ve left a few of them intact as there is almost no chance that the identities of the people involved can be traced.
Since I’ve come out with my personal identity, I will no longer write LRs online. This was a hard choice because I love writing these. They force me to reflect on what I did right or wrong and were crucial in my own development in the social arts.
From time to time, though, I will write LRs whose educational benefits outweigh the marginal chance that the identities of those involved can be traced. My frequent travel schedule aids my efforts at anonymity. I may change a few irrelevant details to protect the identities of the participants.
These anonymous LRs will not be posted online but may be sent to those on my mailing list or posted in a private forum for exclusive members. To get access, enter your name and email in the fields at the top right corner of this site. I don’t send pesky newsletters as I hate junk mail and spam as much as the next guy. So rest assured that you will only receive important announcements, cutting edge dating tips, and exclusive access to special content, and you can always opt out at any time.
Play on, Dr. Asian Rake.
Quick Update
October 13, 2008
As you probably noticed, a lot of changes have been happening here recently 
I was featured on the front page and given a 3-page spread in the Sunday edition of Singapore’s The New Paper about a month ago. TNP is the second-largest circulation paper in Singapore. And I was invited to contribute a regular, weekly column on dating. You can find my back articles under the category heading, The New Paper Column.
I conceptualized and created Dating 101.
We got a new website and new design.
And now I’m writing for Amped Asia.
Plus, I’ve been spending A LOT more time on my day job than I was a year ago.
I just want my blog readers to know that I realize I’ve been writing for other contexts and that I will return to them shortly. I’ve been writing up an LR (field report of a successful interaction), which should be up soon. As well, I’ve got lots of theory and tech posts to write up soon. So check back in a few days!
Peace and love, Dr. Asian Rake.
Nick Sparks and Christian Hudson are out of this world!
July 16, 2008
I’ve been delinquent with the updates as not only have I been instructing on a weekend bootcamp, including instruction on Saturday until the wee wee hours of the morning (we aren’t kidding when we say we put our clients first), but I’ve also been visiting my little sister who lives here in the Big Apple.
I just spent a very pleasant evening with her and her friends watching the New York Philharmonic and Lang Lang (the 26 yo. Chinese genius pianist) rock it on the Lawn in Central Park for a couple of hours, finishing everything off after the encore with a spectacular fireworks show! At first, New York kind of weighs on you with the constant smell of garbage on the sidewalks, the overpoweringly tall buildings casting long shadows over the narrow streets, the wave after wave of fast-walking pedestrians battling it out for space on the sidewalks with construction sites, dogs, and hotdog vendors. But after a while, you get used to all that (again), and your senses are dulled to those distractions, enabling you to take in the many many things that make New York a world-class city like no other. Of course, it helps if you’re listening to a live performance by Lang Lang and the NY Philharmonic while lying on the grass sipping wine by candlelight, surrounded by hundred year old trees.
But before I get completely distracted by reminiscences of delightful evenings in New York, let me get to my original point.
This weekend was my first time actually going out on the town with Nick Sparks. And I do have to say, he lives up to the hype. Out of all the PUAs and gurus I’ve ever met in person or seen on any product, Nick stands out with his quick wit, infectious humor, and amazingly feel good vibe. He’s got the feel of a natural who can also analyze social dynamics. How do you make a girl scowl, laugh, punch you, hug you, and kiss you, all within the first minutes of meeting? Ask Nick Sparks.
Even I learned a thing or two while watching him attract girls left and right with effortless ease. Check him out here: http://www.thesocialman.com/people/nick.php
And then of course, I had the opportunity to once again learn from the man who started me on this whole journey, the doyen of The Social Man, the leader who manages such crazy personalities as myself, Nick, Stephen Nash, DJ, and many many others. And the man who has seen it all.
We often talk on skype from opposite sides of the globe. But we rarely have the chance to go out together. So it was good to see just how versatile this man can be. He can do routine stacks and canned material. But he can also go “natural,” in the moment, in the flow. I saw him make an emotional connection with a hot girl while talking with her about particle physics on a Friday night! If you don’t yet know who Christian Hudson is, … where in the world have you been? Check him out here: http://www.thesocialman.com/people/christian.php
I think it would be very dangerous if all three of us actually lived in the same city.
Lots of great updates coming soon…
Happy playin’, The Asian Rake.
Chillaxin’ with Adam Lyons and Amanda
July 7, 2008
Last weekend, I hung out with Adam Lyons (aka., AFCAdam) and his sexy girlfriend, Amanda, in Toronto. Going out in TO is a nice change for me because usually when I’m in Toronto, my schedule is packed visiting family and catching up with old friends.
Btw, there is still a spot available on the July 11-13 Special Bootcamp held in NYC by The Social Man. I’ll be coaching along with Christian Hudson and Nick Sparks. This is sure to be a life-changing event. And there’s a full 100% money-back guarantee, so you’ve gotten nothing to lose! Check it out!
Adam and Amanda are definitely a cool couple. Sure, they’ve got “game,” but what I like most about them is that they’re really friendly and interesting people. They’re the sort of easy-going people that I’d be happy to invite to a party at my pad or to introduce to my colleagues, my boss, my parents, my grandparents, and heck, even my three-year old nephew!
Now you may not think that’s a big deal, but if you’ve been involved in the “pick-up community” (ugh, I hate that term) for any length of time, you’ll know that the vast majority of community guys, and even the best teachers and gurus, are just, well, kinda creepy, dress weirdly, and lack the ability to relate to normal people.
And I think it’s especially cool that Amanda is there to provide the female perspective. In a couple of my weekend workshops in China, I brought along my main Beijing girl, a 21 year old 5’9” actress and model, for the fashion consultation, some of the exercises on Saturday, and the in-field portions. She was particularly integral on the in-field portions. I really think it’s important for guys to hear a woman’s honest perspective on their image and impressions. A really crucial part of mastering the social arts is being able to understand the inner world of hot women.
To my bros back in Beijing: Adam kind of looks like a white, thinner version of Natural-MD. They dress, laugh, stand, and carry themselves in a similar way, though I can’t imagine two more different styles of interacting with women.
One of the original contributions Adam has made is about dance floor game and how the best way to think of it is in terms of compliance, investment, commitment, or “making the girl work for you.” It’s brilliant and the first time I’ve ever heard anyone in the community talk about dance floor game this way.
It’s similar to the insight I developed about Karaoke game in Asia, which I mention in this LR here and about which most guys seem to have completely missed the point. The brilliance is NOT that you take her to Karaoke to show off your “great” singing skills or even just to have a fun time. The insight is that you make her sing FOR you. If you’re doing much singing, then you’re missing the point. She’s got to invest in you by singing and performing for you! Do that, and you’re golden.
Of course, Adam was awesome at social proof, his calling card. Right at the start of the night, Adam had the bar staff in the palm of his hand, getting laughs and smiles from everyone, but not in that cocky-funny way or slimy hypnotic way. He was just being super friendly and funny.
For Adam, to game the hottest girl in the venue, first win over the venue, and then approach the 10, making it just soo much easier. Uh, yeah, Asian Rake, brilliant. If it were that easy… LOL. I’ll get into how to do this in my next post.
Adam’s settling down in America with Amanda for a while, and they’ll be doing a bunch of bootcamps around the country. So I’m sure you’ll see more of them. They’re still ironing out a few kinks in their bootcamp curriculum and format, but I’m sure they’ll be going strong soon.
It was really cool chatting with Adam about entourage game, as it’s something that I didn’t pay much attention to while in Beijing until I almost left. It’s also something that very few PUAs or “gurus” know much about simply because most coaches travel out of town almost every weekend and hence, have few opportunities to build a really big and solid social circle. Adam garnered a reputation for rolling into clubs with 20-40 girls and just a few guys, causing club owners to compete for his patronage and eventually creating another line of work for himself as a promoter.
Lately, I’ve been learning directly from some of the very best guys in the community at entourage and social circle game, as it’s become the next little challenge I’ve set for myself. So it was really cool to hear from the A2 team on this.
I’ve also been drawing from the fecund genius of Christian Hudson, who maintains the highest-class social circles I’ve seen in the community today, including top supermodels, cover girls, beauty pageant winners, and even the occasional girl next door 
Check him out at The Social Man.
A well-kept secret and definitive authority on VIP game, who contributes to the community whenever he can spare the time from managing his harem of girls and his extensive entourage of bikini models and Californian blondes, is Alex Chase, a former club promoter and just a super cool Korean-American chilling out on the beaches of San Diego. He’s working on some great products on VIP and entourage game that will truly take things to the next level.
I’ll be posting some Toronto field reports soon, so check back in a couple of days
Happy playin’, The Asian Rake.
P.S. I cropped myself out of that photo with Adam and Amanda, but you can catch a glimpse of my right forehead. I think I was standing on a stair because I look higher than Amanda, but she’s at least a couple of inches taller than me. LOL
