I have Facebook stalkers…
January 28, 2009
And they just keep popping up, lol.
Be vigilant with your privacy settings and don’t tag your photos unless you want jealous guys and creepy, psychologically disturbed community guys tracking down your girls, messaging them, and spreading malicious rumors about you, including false information about how you run your day 2s and who you are currently seeing (wow, a little too close for comfort).
Singaporeans don’t have paparazzi; they have the creepy lair guy… who writes ungrammatical English, lol
As you make a name for yourself, you’ll have to get used to this; it comes with the territory. It’s almost inevitable that some random creepy guys out there will be so ego-driven, simultaneously so full of pride and envy that they will obsess over you. You barely even know of their existence, but they spend every waking moment obsessing over you. LOL. It sounds scary, but it’s actually more pitiful than anything else.
Not all community guys are creepy, of course, but you never know who you are really dealing with… (cue scary music, lol).
Back to our regularly scheduled programming.
Play on, The Asian Rake.
Thought Leader Interview with Lance
December 29, 2008
You might remember when I mentioned that I was named, along with such guys as Sinn and Dave Wygant, as one of the top Thought Leaders in the community by Honey and Lance. Following up on that, Lance has been doing email interviews with each of the Thought Leaders, and he just posted his interview with me.
If you haven’t checked out Honey and Lance yet, do it now. You’ll thank me profusely afterwards. Their site is easily one of the most insightful, candid, and well-balanced forums on dating and relationships. Most notably, their probing analyses and entertaining writing have attracted several articulate and highly intelligent female bloggers who have been interacting with both Honey and Lance and generating great discussions.
Here’s the original post on the Thought Leaders.
Here’s my interview with Lance.
Happy Holidays!
The Pickup Weirdo and Lairs…
September 14, 2008
I guess when you stand up, you’ll get noticed, and others will try to chop you down.
For those who don’t know, there are online forums of random guys who share tips and thoughts on getting better with women.
These forums are called “lairs.” There are at least three lairs in Singapore alone. These lairs organize meetings for these guys to meet other aspiring “pickup artists.”
My experience with lairs in several different countries has been largely disappointing. Over 90% of the lair members are downright creepy and have major psychological issues. Pickup weirdos.
This past weekend, I got sucker-punched by a new pickup weirdo who introduced himself to me outside a club. He was with a big gang of lair guys, a few of whom I know and count as friends.
When a friend introduces me to another guy, I’ll treat the guy like a friend. I’m friendly. I let my guard down. I let you into my circle. I’ll even introduce you to my girls.
The last thing you should do is to try to AMOG me (trying to assert your alpha-ness and social authority) in front of one of my girls.
Even while it’s happening, I give you the benefit of the doubt. Maybe this is just the way you are. Maybe you’re new to the scene. Maybe you don’t know that you’re stepping on toes. Maybe you’re incredibly insecure and need to pee on the tree to feel like a man. So I throw you a bone.
But no. The air of superiority, and the naked assertion of ego is unmistakeable.
So you win the little AMOG battle. You pump up my girl’s buying temperature. She gets giddy, subconsciously feeling that two men are fighting over her. I learned something very important about this girl.
But more significantly, that pickup weirdo just lost a potential friend… for now, anyway.
Choose your battles wisely. Especially when there isn’t even a war.
Peace and love, The Asian Rake.
